Taking Precedent?

So I have always thought about how my needs are always going to take precedent in a relationship that I have. Whatever activity he wants to do is going to have to be vetted to make sure I can participate. Any vacation he wants to take is going to have to be researched to make sure I can get around and bring all my equipment that I need. I didn't really realize that this would be another thing I would be taking away from a boyfriend/husband. But I know that I am always going to try my hardest to push my needs that aren't life threatening aside because I know that I want him to have as much attention in our relationship that I have.